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On the Folly of Faking Interest in Casual Sex

So why is that? Well it all begins in a city far, far away….

Okay Sydney. Not really that far.  Let me explain.

Weekend before last,  Take2 and I headed off for a few days away to catch up with friends. We stayed in Sydney for a few nights, one of which I crashed in Goose’s apartment.

Now Goose has a flat-mate who is a smart, beautiful, successful woman. However, she’s also totally head-over-heels in love with her ex-boyfriend – who (several months after their break-up) is still 1. sleeping with her, and 2. treating her like shit. I saw all of this first-hand over the weekend.

My initial reaction was strong: Why does she still see him? Why does she let him treat her this way?

For me, as an outsider, looking in at her life and the choices she was making, it was so easy to say “Stop! Just stop seeing him!” I was sitting on my high-horse and telling her what I would do if I was her.

But the story continues.

That same night, a group of my closest friends hung out and we managed to put away several bottles of gin while karaoke-ing to ABBA music. It was one of those unforgettable nights of fun. However, at the same time, I was secretly texting a boy that I had promised myself I would never drunken text again. Not only was I texting him – I was hiding it from my friends.

The next day, when my shameful secret was revealed (I’m not a very good liar) Take2 turned to me and said (not in these words, she was much nicer than this, but I’ll paraphrase) ”You are in danger of doing exactly what you said not to do – chasing and obsessing over someone who’s not interested.”

She was right. I’d been on my superior high-horse with Goose’s room-mate, but here I was – showing I had no more self-control than she did!